Teach our Sons

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#MyFathersDayReflection

Let's build strong boys instead of waiting to repair broken men!

By Kingsley Obom-Egbulem ======================
What would you do about that 11-year-old boy if you were sure he’s going to end up marrying your DAUGHTER tomorrow?

If we did something purposeful and deliberate about the boys of yesterday, we would have had purpose-driven husbands and fathers toady!

The world has been grappling for decades  with a crisis of fatherhood and you can see this crisis all around us; from the rape crisis in India, the genocide we all witnessed in Rwanda to the Syrian crisis and emergence of ISIS in the Middle East . From the ever increasing population of fatherless boys and single mothers in South Africa, to the rise in militancy in the Niger Delta, the Almajiri crisis in Northern Nigeria and the ever present Area Boys epidemic in Lagos, something has gone wrong with our 'Heads'.

Indeed, everywhere you turn to, you see Fatherhood clearly on trial. But the influence of patriarchs and fathers like Nelson Mandela, gives us hope as well as points to just one fact: Fatherhood is still 'Source' and when something goes wrong with Fatherhood, everything is bound to go wrong. And to change the world, we must get it right with fatherhood. And to get it right with fatherhood, we need to start engaging our boys NOW!

The husbands and fathers of today were once the boys of yesterday. If we wanted better fathers and husbands today, we would have done something DELIBRATE yesterday, when today’s husbands and fathers were boys.

We have another opportunity knocking: the boys of today would soon become the husbands and fathers of tomorrow. And if we want better fathers for the boys (and better husbands for the girls) of tomorrow, then we must do something deliberate about the boys of today.

Who is talking to our boys about relationships, girls, women, sex, sexuality, pornography and all manner of sexual perversion that can ruin their future and marriage? Who’s talking to our boys about PURPOSE, DECISION and how it can make the difference in the kind of men, fathers and husband they become? We need to talk to our boys about peer pressure, the danger of drugs and alcohol. How do we engage our boys about masculinity, gender and domestic abuse, rape and all manner of sexual violence?

Lets talk to our boys NOW before they become men and formed.

For instance, let's tell our boys that: 'It is ok to have an erection as a guy but just because a guy has an erection doesn’t mean he has to do anything with it'.  
Who is telling our boys that 'when a lady says no, she means NO and if she wants to say YES, she knows how to say it?'

Who is telling our boys that 'when a lady is wearing a short she's not asking to be raped or insulted and skimpy clothes don't necessarily mean come and sleep with me'.

Let’s train our boy to govern the MAN and POWER that controls His DRIVES while he is young!

We often talk to girls about staying out of premarital sex and getting married as virgins. What are we telling the boys- our sons and fathers of tomorrow?

So, we ask: what does it profit a girl to preserve herself, so she can be married as a virgin only to end up with a oversexed man struggling with porn and all manner of sexual perversion as husbands?

It's unfair to such a girl.

Hence we feel if we must ask our girls to preserve themselves for their husbands, our boys too must preserve themselves for their wives.

I'm passionate about mentoring boys. About engaging our husbands and fathers of tomorrow and helping them discover and define PURPOSE. That's what I've committed to doing through the SEXsense and Purpose Clinic for Boys. 'Preserving tomorrow's men, husbands and fathers to fulfil purpose'.  

Host a Sexsense and Purpose Clinic for Boys in your church, School, Estate and club. I invite you to join me and support this course... as we take hold of the future- one boy at a time!

A Father's Day Message From:
Kingsley Obom-Egbulem
FX-Men founder /President 
Parenting Now! '-
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