Permanent Plans, Not For Temporary People

So, let me answer a question by making it an open lesson.

Freely I have learnt, freely I share.

Don't make permanent plans with temporary people.

There are friendships/Spouses for various seasons in life.

As my Aunt taught me, 

Spouse for the morning. These are friends or Spouses for the start off seasons of your life. They are those who know u when u are starting off.

Spouse for the afternoon. These are limited friends or Spouses who stand by when things are bright. They are your friends as long as the shine is on, the money is in the pocket, things are up for u. As long as u make it, they are there with u. At this time, your morning friends have reduced.

Spouse for the night. These are friends and Spouses who stay all the way. They may not even know u in the morning or afternoon, they may come late into your life, they may as well have known u always, but they are all weather friends and Spouses. Always there either u fail or succeed. They lift u when u fall. They pull u when u over-speed.

From these explanations, u must notice that, a Spouse or friend may not fit in when u fall, they want u to always stand. When u mess up, they leave u.

Some also, may stand with u through struggles, but they can't fit in when u succeed. They ain't made for soft and prosperous days, but for struggling days alone.

Your real friends and Spouses are there, either u fall or stand, sick or healthy.....always there.

After a recent major life's test, I discovered my true friends. My friendship list thinned down so drastically to, just a few. My family and relatives became an immovable rock!

Your family, a good family and relatives, are your best rock! A bad family will deny u, a good one will stand up strong for u, come rain or shine!

My long friendship list thinned down to just a few.

Meanwhile, one of them has been my friend for nearly 30 years now. The days when neither he nor I were anything. Did we even know where we were going? Abi Mr. T?

While, I lost none of my family and relatives. None!!!

So, I hope I have explained what I mean, when I say, DON'T MAKE PERMANENT PLANS WITH TEMPORARY MorounKunbi Merriman-Johnson-Johnson

Find your real friends, they ain't fair-weather friends. They are all-weather friends! But u may not find them until u have hit your lowest grounds!

Save Homes

I reminisce about all those relationships that I knew back then in religious environments. The Fiancé and Fiancée syndrome (we didn't have anything like dating, going-out, hanging-around, messing-about etc) while in School Fellowships, Churches etc.

Most of these relationships ended in marriages.

Mostly, one or both people in the relationship must have prayed and heard God say, Yes, go ahead!

Sadly, years after, most of these marriages have hit the rocks.

Why?

We need more that 'God said' to maintain a marriage.

We need total mutual obedience to the Words of God.

We need need undiluted, sincere love.

We need understanding of each other.

We need maturity to apply wisdom rightly.

We need these mutual values and beliefs.

When each Spouse face their world, out of home and Religious settings (comfort zones), there will be influences and challenges....challenges that will question the depth of your strength and beliefs.

Only the total knowledge and obedience to the Word of God will sustain you and then, your Home.

Why does it have to be mutual?

Imagine a Couple, rowing their boat in the middle of the sea. One rows to the front, the other rows to the back. Where are they going? Nowhere!

God gives 2 options?

Call God for help, or

Get out of a sinking boat.

It is pathetic to know that, the Homes that should give God's ensamples of Godly Homes, have crumbled where we shouldn't have!

It is never too late to make amends. At least repair your own self! And find your own peer next time.

Enough of forcing the scriptures down people's throats. Enough of overshadowing people's personal traits with scriptures and calling it faith. 

The traits and behaviors you experienced while 'courting' are the same that you will experience if/when married. Stop using the scriptures to deceive 'yasef'.

Now, every time I post serious thoughts like this, some Readers make calls to ask, 'who is he talking to?'

I'll answer it right here, I'm talking to You and Myself!

Let us all save Homes.

Let us all save children from the abuse of destabilization.

If you have defects, please don't pass it on! - 

Pastor Taiwo Odukoya

Selah!

Hezekiah Bode Olugbore